Hey guys I recently interviewed Arash Dibazar. You may have heard of Arash from the book ‘The Game’. He has a huge amount of experience with picking up women and hopefully this interview will be of benefit to you.

You can check Arash’s website here: Seductive Instinct

Speak soon,

David Black

Arash Interview

Hello everybody this is Arash aka Achilles from the game and you can find me on Seductive Instinct. I’m doing this interview for David from Loveawake dating site.

1.  What are some of the highlights on your personal journey towards mastery with women?

That’s a very interesting question because there’s a lot honestly. I’ll give you few without having to name people and protect the innocent and shit like that. I’ll tell you, okay, let me make it generalize in a way that makes sense to everyone. I think the thing that sticks out the most is the first night when Matador and I were out and I had enough skills at this point to actually be a wing man and I wasn’t just sitting there wondering what the hell is going on. We ended up leaving the club with two car full of women one was an Escalade the other one was a Mercedes packed back to Matador’s house. There was three guys and nine girls, myself Matador and another guy that was with us, the whole night was just like the club was like being a movie star you know what I mean? It will so cool because we got there and didn’t have a section because we got there late so we looked at this one table and there was these guys there was five or six guys who had this VIP section where we wanted to sit. What we did is started to take girls to them, first we introduce ourselves to the guys “listen, we have a lot of girls and they are going to be wanting to party and hang out. If you guys don’t mind taking care of them some of these girls are really good looking blah blah blah.” So what we did is go out opening sets and bringing the girls to the table and it was just a matter of maybe thirty minutes or so we had the table filled with women. We would just keep dropping off girls and leaving, dropping off the girls and leaving, and dropping off the girls and leaving, “hey meet so and so” merging them. Maybe an hour later the guys were like “who are you guys? My God yes any drinks you want it’s on me.” So we took over the table and in short I don’t want to give you specifics honestly I won’t but I can tell you this but if you read the book The Game and look at the end of it and how Neil Strauss lives his life or if you just imagine how it would be like to live a life where you don’t have enough time for women. You do not have enough time for them like you have to choose “okay, I have this much time and there’s five chicks to choose from. Who do I go out with or who am I going to hang out with.” And then that’s life, it becomes my friend called it “a quality problem” I remember a time when there was maybe one or two chicks that I can call on to hang out. Now it’s at a time where the numbers are, and they just continue so the highlight for me the key moments that I have my friends or there are just so many, I refuse to answer the question any more than this. Okay, you should be able to get it right you should be calibrated, if you study game you should be able to look at me and understand that there is a lot to it. Okay, it’s a life is hard to describe when you get it and I wouldn’t trade it for anything just wouldn’t.

2. What have been the biggest obstacles for you and how have you overcome them?

Has been the fact that I have a girlfriend and I’ve been in a serious relationship for 5 ½ years almost 6. The way I’ve overcome it is I’ve developed a different style of game like how do you have a girlfriend who knows that you are a high-level pickup artist that that’s what to do and still keep her around and still be able to a pickup artist. That has been the biggest challenge for me personally I believe and the second challenge is the lost focus that you get because if you have other things going on in life you know at some point you will get so obsessed with this and being able to balance that was kind of difficult at the beginning. Still at times but kind of merge it life and game are the same thing you know but I remember in the beginning is just like it’s all you can think of is gaming all the time just all the time you know what I mean 24 hours a day. If you had anything else going on in life it’s just difficult so I’ve overcome that by merging my life and my game are the same I live a life of game that makes any sense obviously I’m teaching here and I have a lot of passion for martial arts and helping people so it all goes together now. Those would be the two biggest obstacles and on a game level what would be my personal obstacle game wise? I had a hard time calibrating like pulling back if that makes sense I was very ballsy just you know because I came from a direct kind of game being a martial artist and living in that world there is no bull shit about that when you just go take out the opponent that’s how I approach it. So I was mis-calibrated a lot and even just recently I had a realization about it on how to pull back and allow the person to take ah to get it out of you, you know I would put out too much so that was a personal challenge that I had.

3. Being a martial artist, how does this affect your attitude when interacting with women and learning to better yourself in this arena?

Being a martial artist has helped me tremendously in studying game. Man! I think that’s one of the reasons why I’m so successful so quickly the discipline. I know what it’s like to go from zero skill to a very high level skill in something and I saw the progression. I know what it’s like to get beat up every day and have to show up again, I know what it’s like to have a teacher who you trust and walked the path and now takes you through it. All those things were vital when I got into game I treated it the same way I found my teacher Mystery and Matador I studied with him I trusted them when things wouldn’t go right it was just like getting beat up so I just kept doing it. I had the discipline to study study study and I can see myself progressing it’s been huge and the confidence I have through martial arts is tremendous. Like I don’t really have to deal with AMOGing you know what I mean? Guys just don’t AMOG me I mean it can happen it has happened some guy ran by me and hit a drink in my hand and spilled it all over me. I looked at him and just kept going no fight no nothing I end up using that motion to make a lot of friends that night. The discipline, the focus, the confidence, even the humbleness you know because you realize in martial arts no matter how good you are you get beat up at some point there is always someone better and I realize that in game to. No matter how good you are it’s not a hundred percent like you are going to win every single time but just like in martial arts you increase the chances of survival greatly same thing in game when you have good game chances are that you are going to hook-up with the chick that you want.

4. What in your opinion our the 3 best ways a guy can demonstrate that he is a man to a woman?

The three best ways a guy can, that’s a great question, the three best ways a guy can demonstrate that he is a man to a woman is one he has to not apologize for some characteristics that are manly. For example, men like women, men like being macho, men like winning you know standing up for themselves. Those qualities you don’t apologize for, I like winning, I love beautiful women I am a man and I don’t like people upsetting my environment you can say. As a man I take care of my environment that’s a very important quality, number one don’t apologize for being a man whatever that means to you probably better than what I said okay. Second, make sure that as a man you demonstrate you are into a lot of different girls and this may sound illogical but it’s very important in my game. I’m into a lot of beautiful girls I have no problem saying that Hugh Hefner lives the best life out of man that I know from the outside. I don’t need to apologize, you see I have a girlfriend and she knows that’s how I feel so that’s a manly quality. It’s a very feminine quality to me to get married and settle down and of course that’s an opinion that people can object to that but you know you are asking me the question. I’m telling you a man has that quality and also there’s a manly quality is slightly bad boyish it’s very important you know. You, you know who you are and you make your own rules it’s not like you are some asshole who breaks rules but if you don’t agree with something you clearly stated. You have your own boundaries and rules and it’s very clear and I think those three qualities are very important I don’t know if they are the most important qualities but I am being asked these questions in the moment and these are the things on my head.

5. How can you demonstrate higher value without coming across as being arrogant or bragging?

It’s practice you do it, when it goes right you pay attention to what you did and when it goes wrong you pay attention to what you did. It’s hard to say man I can give you advice which is like everything you talk about should be incidental, right. If I’m talking about what a great fighter I am I’m going to talk about how incredible I feel about jujitsu. “Brazilian jujitsu it’s completely changed my life you know I remember not being able to face people much bigger than me because I thought they would be able to take me out but now it doesn’t matter how big the person is I can easily, easily use leverage and stuff that’s important because people should have confidence.” Boom, I just talked about how great a fighter I am incidental to the importance of jujitsu and leverage and confidence something like that.

6. Is there one resource, course or book that has had a major impact on your development?

Yes, the book that has the most effect on me was the Mystery Method by Mystery. The second book was Revelations by the Venusian Arts, the third book is the book The Game. Those three are the same category for me man there is so much in that if you understand those three you got it, you can do a lot, you can always get better.

7. If you started again from scratch tomorrow how would you approach learning things?

Great question. If I could do it again how would I approach it differently? I don’t know if I would approach it differently let me see. I wouldn’t approach it differently I just wouldn’t. There is a few sets that I lost that I wish I could go back because now I know I can do way better but I wouldn’t approach studying any differently. I studied the way I should of studied it found teachers studied with them became the best at what they taught and continued to venture out and study more things to add to my arsenal.

8. What’s the funniest thing that has ever happened to you when meeting women?

Funny/scary a girl pulled out a gun on me and very few people know about this. I didn’t share it I think three people know about this, the chick brought a gun because she thought I was a bad ass I was acting like a bad ass through text or whatever she wanted to hang out she came around and “so you think you’re a bad ass” and took out a fucking gun and I had to figure out how to deal with a fucking gun in, it wasn’t in my face but about to be in my face so I handled it. That was some fucked up shit haha.

9. What’s the worst thing that has ever happend when meeting women? Everyone has at least one horror story :-)

The worst thing is I got kicked out of a restaurant for harassing or something in the beginning. The manager and general manager came up I was eating and they were like “hi, I’m the manager and general manager and would like to ask you to leave.” I said “well why?” “Well we’ve been getting complaints.” “Complaints?” I thought I was doing just fine so and people were watching shit happen so that was fucking embarrassing. They said I couldn’t go back there. Fuck them!

10. What’s the worst thing that has ever happend when meeting women? Everyone has at least one horror story :-)

My greatest achievement in game? Is for me personally getting the acknowledgment of my teacher Matador and him saying that I am a master pickup artist I think means more to me than anything anybody or any girl can say because, that opinion meant more to me than anything else.

11. I read that you like to open everyone and be as social as possible. Can you explain why it’s so important to be a highly sociable person when learning to meet women?

Because if you go to the girl and say I’m going to introduce you to my friend he is very good-looking but is not social he is not sociable you can’t take him out around your friends and family and stuff that’s a turn off. You have to be we are social creatures why is it important because we are social creatures and we studying game which is social dynamics everywhere you look the word social is in there you know what I mean? If you are not social that is weird such right and for me in the question it said that I like to be social I love people I really do it’s a big part of my game I’m actually interested in people curious about them. I want to know how they work I want to know what they think the more beautiful they are the more curious I am about them naturally if they are that pretty I want to know how you see the world you know and must be different and it is different they see the world differently. It is very important to be social.

Okay, this is Arash Dibazar aka Achilles from the game much respect to Mystery, Matador, Venusian Arts and all the people that came before me check us out at http://www.seductiveinstinct.com I will change your life guaranteed.

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